WHEN HE GOES SILENT

One of the most fascinating phenomena about men is there reaction when annoyed or when they have something on their mind. They amazingly go SILENT. DEAD  SILENT. This is just something we do not understand as women. (It just does not make sense)


When a man wants to think he retreats into a cave. (Sometimes called THE IDIOT BOX). The only motion that he has is flicking of channels. The remote control actually becomes an extension of his hand. This is actually not a bad thing. When you think about it , it is a good thing. This becomes his me time . It actually gives the man time to put his thoughts in order.


Now where do we go wrong as women. When he goes into his cave we follow him in. We begin to question him, ask him to talk to us and so on. Solutions which we would prefer for ourselves. We forget men and women are different. Men are not our girlfriends so they do not like to talk.

As we talk more to him he moves further into his cave. Eventually he will run out of cave and his reaction will be a negative one. Why? He was not given the time to realign his thoughts. He is more confused than ever and does not what to do next. Being a man this affects his confidence and he is not able to make decisions. This is not good as the man is dying slowly and he begins his journey on the road of resentment.

How can we as women help our men during such times? It is very simple:

• Give him time and space to think. I don't mean ignore him. I am just saying watch him from a distance and be ready when he needs you.

During this time so that we do not pull our hair out we can use this time as me time. Go shopping, go for a manicure, catch up with a friend. Something! Do anything to keep you busy. It will allow the man some time to think and be himself. Once he is done he should come out of his cave a better person.

What would be most helpful for the women is if the man gave reassurance. For example "Please give me time to think I will get back to you". And after thinking if only he could get back to his women it would so help. It would build confidence in the woman. She would know that he doesn't hate her, he just needs space.

#Just saying